If I had tackled these tasks in reverse order, I would have saved myself a lot of time, because I could have just written this sentence: Read Lopate’s essay, I agree with it.
Oh well. But read his essay, I agree with it. My favorite bits include his rules on this tricky topic for himself, which are:
1) Never write to settle scores.
2) Write as beautifully as possible.
I also liked that when he wrote about his family, he changed the name of his siblings but not his parents, “reasoning, I suppose, that my parents were elderly and their lives were nearly over, whereas my siblings were still in the midst of the struggle.”